17 August 2021

"Why don't Guys Moan Like That?": Women Talk about Gay Porn

Liza Moroz

Sex researcher and journalist Lisa Moroz interviewed women and found six reasons why they love looking at guys having sex.

Apparently girls REALLY enjoy watching two men have sex. Data released by Pornhub confirms this - four out of ten porn stars searched for in 2019 were LGBTQ +. And from an earlier report from the hottest website in the universe, we learn that 37% of gay porn downloads were made by women.

There are more handsome men (and penises) in gay porn

Almost all of the women who were asked why they like gay porn said they like to see good-looking men. Someone is "into cute guys," someone drools over six-packs, huge biceps, and strong legs, and someone sincerely believes that "there's never too many cocks."

Tastes differ, but certainly there aren't enough good-looking guys in heteronormative porn for the female audience. Most 18+ content is shot by straight men for straight men, so the beauty of the actors is secondary. The focus is often on a character with a penis that the male audience can identify with, replace themselves in the movie, and become the main participant in the act (all in their head).

It's nice to see guys enjoying themselves

"In traditional porn, men are often quiet and too focused. And I like to see guys being really into it," Alesya explains her fascination. Ulyana says, "With these videos there's a lot of sensuality and tenderness in men. It's refreshing to see them act like that. " The founder of Lucas Entertainment, the largest gay porn studio, Michael Lucas admits in an interview, "Normal porn can be so tense... In gay porn, everyone is relaxed".

In gay porn, women are exposed to a different kind of masculinity. There is a mixture of brutality, tenderness, emotionality and openness. Nadia, one of the interviewees, says that she likes this gay porn more because "she can hear the guy." I think we can all admit that in gay porn you can finally hear male moans, whereas in regular porn the men are either muffled by female screams or simply silent because “it's not proper for a man to moan”.

This is essentially anal porn

According to PornHub's data, views in the Anal category have increased in 2019 all countries from Argentina to Poland, and they are popular among both men and women. Therefore, it's not surprising that some girls admitted to watching gay porn because it's esentially anal porn. "And it’s easier to relate when you know how nice it can be," Rita explains.

It is something forbidden

Women admit that taboo plays a big role in their interest in gay porn. For them it is something "new, unknown and exciting". This phenomenon can be viewed from several angles. For one, sex has always been taboo and is only now is gradually emerging and becoming normal. And often, we're fueled by our curiosity. Perhaps that's why porn has basically become a popular movie genre. Then anal sex is also often left out, which is why it is so desirable to many. And last but not least, homosexuality is still at the top of any public censorship: and the stronger the restrictions are, the more dopamine is produced when we watch porn with two naked men.

Division of roles

Research shows that 62% of women enjoy rough sex. Therefore, they may watch both BDSM porn and gay porn enjoying the "nasty big guy stroking a boy." Some women admit that they "get turned on by the humiliation from the guy they're doing it with." For them, the submissive role in gay porn is relatable than in straight porn. It may be easier for them to associate themselves with a "gentle boy" than with a busty blonde.

Others, however, prefer the power position - and they like gay porn precisely because of the presence of that power over a man. In general, dominance over a partner in a heterosexual relationship is not that common. That's why it's more likely to find female dominance videos in the BDSM category than anywhere else. And then what's left for women who are not into BDSM? That is where gay porn comes handy - it allows them to feel dominant enough and imagine themselves in place of a man, without crossing own boundaries/

Virtual revenge on men

"When I watch a man dominate a man, I catch myself feeling joy," Xenia says. She believes that this feeling is connected to desire to get revenge on men, who usually get to have more power both in relationships and in the world in general. "Sometimes, when it seems that all men are bastards, I watch gay porn with a feeling of "Serves you right!" - Margot agrees.

In general, gay porn allows women to have their own sexual fantasies rather than those imposed by society. It creates a safe space where females do not have to compare themselves to over-the-top porn actresses. Where they can explore their sexuality without shame, guilt or obligation. For the same reason gay porn is also enjoyed by lesbians who are not interested in lesbian porn as it is often unrealistic and focuses on satisfying male audience.

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Women's preference for gay porn can also be explained by the fact that women are more sexually flexible than men. Sex researcher Meredith Chivers found that men only show physical arousal when watching porn that matches their sexuality, while women are equally aroused by lesbian, gay or straight porn, regardless of their sexuality. In any case, this research is just a proof of how unpredictable and versatile human sexuality can be.

Photos: 2,3 – mistinguette18 by license CC BY-NC-ND 2.0, 5,6 – honeycut07 by license CC BY-NC-SA 2.0


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