FirstMet Dating Site: A First-hand Review of the Service

Members 30 million
Popularity 500,000 weekly
Gender proportion 65% male, 35% female
Geography USA, International
Account verification Facebook, email
Mobile app iOS, Android
Price $24.99–74.97
Free version basic functions
Fraud risk medium
Hookup chance ★★☆☆☆

When you feel like you’ve already met everyone on Tinder and sexting apps are no longer working for you either, it’s time to look for alternatives. Firstmet boasts to be one of the largest dating networks where you can meet the love of your life or something less intimidating. In reality, according to the high number of Firstmet reviews, the great half of the audience might be fake.

Firstmet, previously known as AreYouInterested, is more popular with the middle-aged American audience but has established a presence globally as well. The concept of the website is to find someone with similar interests and eventually proceed to relationships: serious or casual, whatever you’re both up to.

Firstmet dating site connects people based on their interests



Although the membership cost is not the highest one on the market, it is still pricey. You’ll have to pay $24.99 for the one-month subscription, $49.99 for the three-month membership, and the half-a-year subscription costs $74.97.

Free services

Unfortunately, there’s nothing much that you can do for free on the Firstmet dating website. You can create and fill in your profile, receive suggestions for matches, and use the Paltalk video chat feature without paying for it.

Paid services

Most of the paid services are standard: boosting your profile, allowing others to read your messages, and see the list of people who visited your profile comes at a fee.

Firstmet dating is all about similar interests

But the biggest disappointment is that in order to send or receive messages on Firstmet, you’ll have to buy the membership. I am always very cautious with websites that use this model because it feels like tricking you into subscribing without offering anything in return. Some Firstmet reviews that I’ve found on the web confirm my concerns:

“Firstmet is a joke! I tried to unsubscribe a week prior to my membership was supposed to finish, and Firstmet customer service had no decency to answer and charged me anyway! If you value your money, do NOT pay for the subscription!”

Audience quality


Compared with other dating services, I’ve ended up with fewer matches. However, if you’re looking for a more mature audience, Firstmet might be a decent option. Don’t lose your common sense and never send money to strangers. Many people have reported a high rate of fakes and scammers there.

Also, although the Firstmet dating service claims to be LGBT friendly, don’t expect to have a lot of gay matches. And if you are not a fan of chit-chat and looking for something naughty straight away, I won’t recommend it. Read our Xmatch review to get a few ideas on hotter online dates.

Firstmet is popular with women over thirty

Age distribution

Firstmet positions itself as a popular dating service for all age groups; however, the audience is clearly on the older side: most of the users are over thirty-five years old. I’ve been chatting to a few girls in their late twenties and early thirties.

Fakes and scammers

At a casual glance, there’s nothing wrong with the Firstmet’s audience, but in practice, it all depends on your location. Apparently, a lot of scammers from Ghana and other countries are targeting American users hoping to get some money from them.

People regularly report fake profiles and scammers who try to hustle money



The younger audience will hardly be impressed by the Firstmet’s interface: there is no time-saving swiping feature. Although the design is not the strongest side of the Firstmet dating service, it is relatively straightforward and easy-to-use.

Firstmet is available as an app and desktop version

Signing up

The Firstmet login and registration procedure is quicker than on most of the dating websites. You won’t have to deal with endless questions before you can start using the service. You’re free to decide whether you wish to sign up via Facebook or your email address.

Then you need to fill in your name, date of birth, gender (just two options), and specify if you wish to date men or women. Note that Firstmet will detect your location and in some cases, if you’re using a VPN or provide false location data, you might end up getting banned from using the service.

After that, you need to choose an “Icebreaker” message that Firstmet will send to the people that they match you with. For instance, you can specify how long you need to chat online before actually meeting the person in real life. And that’s it, you don’t even need to upload a photo, but it will definitely increase your chances to match with somebody.

Icebreakers are used to start conversations on Firstmet


Firstmet is focused on matching people with similar interests, and they mean it. You don’t need to type in all your interests manually, as the website has a long list of books, films, music bands, and other areas of interest that you can add to your profile. Your hobbies will act as hashtags so that other members can look for you based on them. Additionally, you can add your ethnicity, religion, political views, and star sign.

Regardless of your membership status, you can view all the profiles and photos and edit yours.


Surprisingly, on Firstmet, there is no search option available and the site offers you a selection of people who they think could become your potential match. The profiles contain image, name, age, location, and other descriptive information. Similar to the swiping concept, you can click either on the cross or check icon depending on your level of interest.

Since the Craigslist casual encounter section is no longer available, people started using all kinds of websites, including Firstmet, to look for one-night stands. If you’re lucky enough, you may find it here but frankly speaking, the chances are slim. So if you’re really up to having something hot right away, try Pure, a secure app that gives you 24 hours to chat and decide if you’re both willing to make it real.


Only paid members can send messages and icebreakers to other users. Free members, however, can initiate video chats thanks to the Paltalk feature. Besides, there is a general chat room.

Mobile app

The Firstmet dating app is available for Android and iOS users around the world. The app’s functionality replicates the web version and its interface is plain and intuitive. If you, like many others nowadays, prefer to look for dates via your mobile phone, you can use the app without compromising the service’s functionality.

Firstmet app is available for iOS and Android users

Security and privacy


As I’ve mentioned before, a lot of users complain that the website continues to withdraw money from their credit cards even after their subscription was canceled. Besides, many customers reported alarming activities:

“This app is full of scammers from Ghana! They post fake pics and ask for steam and Amazon cards. Half of them can’t read and write well. Why don’t they do anything about it?”

Although Firstmet is using the location tracking system, it clearly doesn’t work.

Firstmet dating website uses a swipe-free concept and finds matches for you

Hookup chance


In all likelihood, the fuck now seekers will be disappointed with Firstmet. In a week of using the website, I couldn’t find a decent match either for a hookup or something long-term. Firstmet just kept matching me with the people I didn’t like. That was, by far, the first experience like that in my rich online dating history. The fact that you are not in charge of the search and matching process is very frustrating. On top of that, there is a bunch of scammers to watch out.

Matching algorithm

I was not satisfied with the matches offered by Firstmet. We did have some similar interests, but other parameters like age or ethnicity did not always match. And I wasn’t the only one who didn’t like it:

“What I really didn’t like is that the system says you like everyone so all the guys regardless of their age and location try to get in touch with you. Plus, how come I have no option to change my birth month? Not cool!”

You can log into FirstMet via Facebook


Don’t have time to filter out the fakes? Not ready to chat for days before you take things offline? Try using these hot alternative dating apps instead.



If you’re looking for something more casual and hot, try Pure. It is a private and secure app that is focused mainly on hookups. Surely, you won’t be disappointed.



Fling is another no-strings-attached kind of dating website. It connects people who look for one-night stands and specific sexual encounters in their area.



If you’re looking for nothing but serious relationships, Hinge might help you find them. The app that was designed to be deleted is only good for those who want to go beyond hookups.



One of the oldest dating apps on the market, Match has been connecting people since 1993. While some people use it to look for serious relationships, others are only keen on casual affairs. However, you need to watch out for scammers.


Is Firstmet free?

A few basic functions of the Firstmet dating website like viewing profiles or video chat via Paltalk are available for free. If you want to message other users, you’ll have to pay for the subscription.

Is it worth paying for Firstmet?

The free version of the website as well as the app limit your communication with other users, so paid membership will increase your chances of success. Keep in mind that some people reported unauthorized credit card money withdrawals from the service even after cancellation of their subscription.

What kind of dating site is Firstmet?

Firstmet, formerly known as AYI, is an international dating service for people who look for friendship, romantic relationships, and casual hookups. The platform is popular with people over 35 years old.

Is there a mobile application for Firstmet?

Yes, Android and iOS Firstmet apps have the same functionality as the web version.

Can I search for someone on Firstmet?

No, on Firstmet you cannot search for users yourself. Instead, the service will match you with users based on your profile info, especially the interests section, and you can decide whether you like them or not.

Can you have two Firstmet accounts?

Having two Firstmet accounts is not allowed.

Can Firstmet delete my account?

If you’re using a VPN service or falsify your personal information, Firstmet can delete your account even if you paid for the subscription.

How to delete Firstmet account?

In the Firstmet account settings click on the Deactivate Account button and confirm it by clicking Yes.

Is Firstmet for serious relationships?

People on Firstmet look for all kinds of relationships from friendship to hookups to something more serious.

Is Firstmet legit?

Firstmet is one of the largest mainstream dating services that operates since 2007. Although the platform is trying to fight fakes, many users reported scammers.

Jennifer Williams
Has sexy British accent and sense of humor. Graduated as a psychologist, and worked as a copywriter for advertising. From the age of 20, Jennifer has been writing a diary to document her sexual discoveries, and later focused on writing articles about sex, relationships and dating. Loves coffee and collects sex toys.

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