|Gender proportion||80% male, 20% female|
|Geography||North America, UK, Canada|
|Free version||no messaging|
Today, you can find your Mr or Ms Right or Right Now at any point in the world without the need to hookup at the bar — which is heaven for introverts. All you need is the right app, but the problem is the excessive diversity. It does not seem there is one visible leader among them, like an Uber in the world of dates.
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So how to find a website which is easy-to-use, with a vast pool of relevant profiles and ensuring the security of your private data at the same time?
Sara, 4 miles from you
She is interested in sex, not in relationships. But you can choose…
Well, to find out, I have tried one of the oldest websites of its kind — AdultFriendFinder. To make it easier for you to make up your mind, I have evaluated the service using five parameters: affordability, audience quality, interface, security and the most deciding — hookup chance.
A paid membership costs an astonishing $39,95 a month. Although the price gets substantially lower if you buy a long-term subscription. Three months are $80,85 billed quarterly — $26,95 per month, 32% cheaper. Twelve months are $239,95 — $19,95 per month, 50% cheaper.
What is more, at an AdultFriendFinder website, you can theoretically enjoy the same functionality as Gold members without spending a cent. All you need is to gain “points” — Adultfriendfinder’s quasi currency. Points are awarded to users who provide extra data (like, 100 points for each of the first 5 photos uploaded), as well as for activity on the website. The more blog posts you create, the more votes, comments and public replies you post — the more points you earn. Though I have to admit this game is quite slow, so only suitable for extremely patient people.
As for the functions available to non-paying members, the limitations are standard. Users create profiles, upload pictures, exchange photos and messages to a certain extent, join blogs and groups, comment on blogs and images, use search filters, etc. Free members also enjoy saving up to 200 members in the so-called Hotlist, view current contests and latest finished contests, upload videos by webcams or by filenames.
Paying members have access to the raunchiest content, classified as the “Naughty videos”. Gold members also enjoy unlimited messaging and view full profiles with picture galleries. They can also send gifts and add friends, flirt, use chats and watch live streams.
All payments are made by credit cards, direct debit, bank transfers or mobile phones. Even though adultfriendfinder.com costs 2 times more than the majority of dating sites, Gold members are still expected to pay some additional fees for services like Sex Academy courses.
What I have to admit is that Gold members seem to have an advantage of greater credibility. This is important if you are a man looking for women. The chances of getting a reply if you are Gold increase as dramatically as they do for profiles with pictures in comparison with empty ones. I explain this by the fact that if you invest money in a dating service, you are much more likely to be a real person rather than a fake account.
The last but not least, if you go Gold, your profile just appears much higher in search results.
According to its own statistics, AdultFriendFinder website attracts 25 million visitors per month. The total number of users worldwide is 80 million.
The website is 50th most popular in its category in the US, where the vast majority of its traffic originates from. Apart from America, it is most popular in the United Kingdom and Canada. Besides English, AdultFriendFinder official site also features French, German, Spanish, Chinese, Japanese, Portuguese, Italian and Tagalog languages.
The exact male to female ratio is not disclosed by the management of AdultFriendFinder, but I believe the site has much more males than females — somewhat 80 to 20.
It’s equally popular among straight and queer men — you can choose as many orientations as you like. The banner on top of the homepage invites you to “join the world’s largest sex and swinger community” with “516 Live Broadcasts, 98,897,765 Hot Photos, and 5,023,384 Connections”. As for my experience, the community lacks inclusiveness, but this depends on the city.
What is most inspiring about this website is the absence of judgment across its users. Everyone is here for one single purpose. Casual hookups, regular encounters, monogamy, polygamy, couple share, fuck buddies, cybersex — the pool is big enough for you to find the right person within a certain distance.
This can expand your sexual horizons, introducing you to the individuals you could have never met otherwise. The user community is also highly active across blogs, contests, interest groups, a magazine, as well as courses in the Sex Academy.
One thing you are not likely to find at AdultFriendFinder is a long-term romantic relationship. You might get a date with someone you met on a website, but it is naive to expect this person to introduce you to their parents.
But all this is compensated by the fact that here, people don’t need to have endless chats getting to know each other before arranging an offline date. If you’re tired of the things moving that slowly as well — you are at the right site.
While the abundance of daily active users is the strong point of this website, its design is one of its greatest downsides. All the AdultFriendFinder reviews agree that screenshots look like a bizarre porn site which is about to infect your computer with a dozen viruses.
Not even to mention the fact that this website is asking you to register for something every few seconds of scrolling.
According to some of adultfinder.com reviews, the registration takes up about 30 seconds. For me, it took almost five minutes, but that is still quite speedy.
The top of your homepage looks like a collage of profile pics of your potential matches. The message section looks pretty much like a Gmail inbox section — but this user-friendliness is only for those who use the minimum functionality of AdultFriendFinder official site.
Like Facebook, adultfriendfinder.com has an Activity Feed. Here you can scroll down on the homepage to see updates from users worldwide or near you, as well as users you have added as friends or saved to your Hotlist. You can view and comment on pictures, videos, statuses, and live broadcasts — or post some of your own.
Let’s be honest, this functionality is rather excessive for the vast majority of us — groups, chatrooms, vlogs, live streams, magazines, and the classic messaging features — almost all of them involve direct interpersonal communication for Gold members.
The interface does seem to be quite user-friendly even for those who are not that tech-savvy, but the amount of medium of communication between users and other functions doesn’t allow to consider it easy-to-use. What is even more depressing: most of these functions are only for paying subscribers.
Public comments are, as I think, the favorite way for the users to express themselves. For the most ambitious and vanity-hungry, AdultFriendFinder website has organized themed competitions where anyone can send his or her photos and videos. The winners of the contests are determined by the number of likes.
The Hotlist section is the place to store profiles you are especially interested in, and it’s available for both Gold and ordinary members. The laziest users can express sympathy using the wink emoji on the top of each profile without having to type anything. This function is unfortunately reserved for paying members only, as well as full access to erotic stories, blogs and magazines.
Finally, one of the most distinctive sections of adultfriendfider.com — and, again, unavailable for free — is so-called Sex Academy. This is the kind of edutainment many of us have been long craving for! It allows you to educate yourself on a variety of erotic topics, and get real input from the community members on issues like sex dating, swinging, fetishes, alternative dating.
Adultfriendfinder mobile app for iOS and Android was only added to the line in 2019 and is slightly more minimalistic, yet with almost the same functionality available as the desktop version
Security and privacy
The site, created in the 1990s, has a long and glorious history of transformations. No significant data breaches have been detected for the AdultFriendFinder website since 2016.
That time, a database of emails, usernames, and passwords leaked from AdultFriendFinder and other FriendFinder Networks websites. It included 300 million Adult FriendFinder accounts, as well as the data for 15 million accounts that had been deleted. The passwords for the leaked profiles had been stored in an almost non-encrypted form.
9 years earlier, its team had to deal with the allegations that the company was using malware to generate explicit pop-up ads for its service on PCs without the users’ consent. Furthermore, former employees of AdultFriendFinder admitted that the company practiced billing its customers even after they stopped using the premium subscription — too many clients didn’t notice the unauthorized billings for a long time. Luckily now this has stopped.
Currently, users verify their emails first to sign up and acquire a password. Each username must be unique, thus it can easily serve to identify your profile. This is how moderators track and punish any user who is found guilty of harassing or abusing others.
Other members of the site can also report the wrongdoers. Serious and repeat offenders are banned permanently.
However, after reading user reviews, you will not be sure about that any longer. Lot’s of people complain about no real customer service, formal and standard respond templates, no action against fake profiles even if the fact they use photos from other websites is documented. Some users pretend almost any violation is tolerated if committed by Gold member profiles. Even though theoretically the administration is authorized by Terms&Conditions to block any IP without explaining the reasons.
I found dozens of complaints on forums. People were concerning harsh episodes when they were driving miles to meet someone from the website, but the person never turned up.
Some users realize the messaging functionality is not actually unlimited even for Gold members, and different additional fees still apply. One of the users was getting loads of messages from girls living 1000-2000 miles away with almost no profiles active online in his state. He writes that most of the messages in his inbox turned out to be sent by automated chatbots.
Other typical reviews include several problems combined. A man was trying to sign up for a month. Instead, the site charged him for a full year without his permission. There was no way to contact the company and request a refund. From the first day, the man was getting numerous contacts from women, but replying gave nothing. So the outcome for this man is that most of his contacts were site-generated fakes.
No direct linking to external social media is also supported — but these precautions do not protect against the main buzzkill of any dating website — catfishing. Sometimes you may find yourself scrolling through tons and tons of fake profiles — or just old and unused escort pages.
Almost all the reviews’ authors regret paying any money for a Gold membership and are not going to renew it.
Yet, some suppose it’s generally complicated to get laid using a hookup site — as there will always be much more males than females, so the problem is not specific for adultfriendfinder.com. As for me, I did see some profiles which are likely fake but cannot say for sure.
Apart from the data you have provided while signing up, you can always add more or update the existing. Each profile contains basic details on you, such as your physical attributes and location, sexual preference, personality type and more.
Besides, you can choose to be as detailed as you want. But the more detailed you get, the more accurate the matching will be, and the more people will want to meet you.
Active profiles will be bombarding you with raunchy pics and messages regardless of whether you are keen on this jumble of explicit photos or not. The columnist of Mashable has called this “a Pornhub you can interact with”.
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Despite loads of non-active profiles and the absence of any smart matching algorithm, adultfriendfinder.com demonstrates how ridiculously easy it is to meet people — no matter how introverted you are. The pool includes so many users from different time zones and of various occupations that it’s nearly impossible to log in and not to see lots of people online in your neighborhood. It’s hard to overestimate how much this can boost one’s self-confidence.
This assortment will be random right as long as you have signed up, but you can adjust it to your preferences and refine the results. Just choose your preferred gender and age range, as well as location, radius, sexual orientation, race, marital status, and body type. The website will let you know who is online when you are, which matches are nearest to you, who has liked or messaged you.
The basic search is what you’d expect to see on any dating site: age, gender, distance, etc. However, the advanced search available to paid members introduces a bunch of adult-oriented filters. They include new, currently online and nearby users. Gold members can also search by kinks and interests.
Moreover, despite its search engine is only based on location and a few manual filters, AdultFriendFinder does offer you a couple of questionnaires for more precise matching. Both take much less time to complete than those at eharmony and are funny.
The first one is quite a standard Personality test. The second one is a much weirder “Purity test”, featuring 100 tricky questions concerning how wide your sexual limits are. The list includes the following questions:
- Have you ever french kissed (tongued) someone?
- Have you ever had or given a hickey?
- Have you ever read a pornographic book or magazine?
- Have you ever masturbated to a picture?
- Have you ever purchased contraceptives?
- Have you ever been shopping in a porn shop?
- Have you ever committed an act of exhibitionism (moon, steak, flash)?
- Have you ever sucked a MOS’s breasts or had your breasts sucked?
- Have you ever gone coed skinny-dipping?
I was quite curious if the website offers a separate set of questions for users who have selected gay as orientation. Anyway, as soon as you finish it and allow the engine to use its result, you’ll start seeing much more meaningful and suitable matches instead of jumbled piles of dick pics.
Even if these matches do not end up in anyone lying next to you in bed, this does not mean it cannot bring you a distinctive sexual satisfaction.
To sum it up, AdultFriendFinder’s official site seems to be more or less efficient and reliable if you are looking for casual hookups. You also have to be open-minded enough not to be afraid of ongoing sexplosion of dickpics.
Adultfriendfinder’s official site has even earned several awards for its service: the XBIZ Award for “Dating Program of the Year”, “Adult Site Of The Year” at the XBIZ Awards and “Best Dating Site” at the AVN Awards.
But multiple important disadvantages still occur.
The website needs a redesign — currently, it looks a little bit like a strip club in the middle of nowhere. Genitals are literally in your face from the first moment you have made an account — that is not cool.
An outstanding variety of ways to personalize your profile and communicate with other users makes the interface quite complicated.
There are thousands of fake and non-active profiles that you have to scroll. All the search is based on proximity, without any smart matching algorithms.
Much of adultfriendfinder.com useful functionality is available exclusively to paid members. Users with subscriptions can view complete profiles, conduct advanced searches, and have unlimited access to the website messaging system.
Its cluttered design is challenging to navigate and slow to load. As one of adultfriendfinder.com reviews states, “If you appreciate a well-crafted, aesthetically pleasing website that feels safe — no matter how badly you want to have sex — then this dating site is probably not for you. Nothing is left to the imagination here, and it’s not going to be everyone’s cup of tea. You have got to be open-minded. AdultFriendFinder is not the place to be if you’re trying to make friends, unless ‘with benefits’ is tacked onto the end. Every inch of the site screams ‘this website is used to have sex,’ and you should listen to that. You might get a date out of it, but don’t expect the person to introduce you to their parents”.
Unless you are up for the challenge of those downsides, the website is a thoroughly stimulating experience
Do we have something to suit our needs with these downsides already fixed? I think Pure is the closest to this at the moment. It features no live streams, contests, online courses, group chats, and other stuff, concentrating on sex.
The current rates are as follows:
Take note, that women join Pure for free and men use a 3-day free trial before subscribing for a paid membership.
The subscriptions are cheaper than at AdultFriendFinder official site. All the subscriptions are automatically renewed but can be canceled at any time.
Your profile and all the chats only last for 60 minutes. Temporary profiles with zero details can be both advantageous and disadvantageous. On the one hand, it helps you remain almost anonymous, on the other hand — your counterparts will be anonymous as well.
It’s better to take precautions and thoroughly vet your matches before you are going to meet them up in real life.
It looks incredibly appealing to young adults with its white background, as well as minimalistic cartoons and black font. True to its name, Pure looks clean and elegant. It is not going to bog you down with unnecessary animations and unorganized design.
Registering took me less than a couple of minutes. The chatting windows with other members pop up if “like” is mutual. Pure is entirely visual and heavily relies on two things only in getting people together — your selfie and your geographical position. At the same time, the minimalistic design assures nothing will distract you from the core features of Pure and its pro-sex environment.
This resource provides 100% no-strings-attached, and discreet sexual encounters based on location. So you won’t be able to explore other areas or the places you are heading to unless you have reached your destination.
Privacy and security
Within these 60 minutes of chat, you can be sure no one will ever get unauthorized access to your private messages because of end-to-end encryption.
The profile structure is fantastically simple, and since all the data including chats is automatically deleted by the system 60 minutes after the conversation started, the chances to arrange a hookup instantly after starting a conversation are quite high. This helps overcome one of the greatest drawbacks of all the dating sites — people going on chatting without ever meeting in real life.
This dating resource is perfectly designed to deliver hookups — just like with adultfriendfinder.com, I would recommend you not to try looking for a long-term partner here. The dating pool is smaller than that of AdultFriendFinder, but the hookup chances are higher since here you will never run into fake or non-active profiles.
The website is robust and full of options, with a totally fresh and trendy concept, even if this slightly limits the member base outside big cities in peak hours. This allows genuine outreach from local ladies or guys. If you are looking to gо naughty and seek the internet’s help, Pure is the place to be.