Anal sex is a very sensitive confidential topic but we decided to stop this silly tradition and embrace the topic. Women to women sharing different experiences and real-life stories to erase the taboo sign from the topic do women like anal sex.
We searched for knowledgeable experiences: all women are different, and each story has a unique impression on how they decided to try anal sex and what it felt like.
“It was just something we tried a couple of times out of curiosity.”
We tried it for the first time a year and a half into our relationship. We were in a place where we were comfortable with each other and eager to explore more, so one day, we tried it out of curiosity. I did some research beforehand just to make sure we would both be safe and comfortable doing it. The first time we did it, we used a generous amount of lube and made sure to prepare first. It was definitely interesting for both of us and something neither of us had done before.
After that, we only tried it one more time, and we ultimately decided it wasn’t something that we wanted to continue doing. It was more special doing it with my partner rather than a random hookup because I felt safe and comfortable throughout all of it.
“It was the most intimate night of my life.”
My ex and I had been dating for about three years before we ever tried anal. We did it not because we were bored with our sex life, but because neither of us had ever done it, and we wanted to ‘have a first’ together. He had slept with a lot of women in his teens and early 20s, so I loved the idea of doing something with him that he’d never done before.
We talked about it for months before finally going through with it. It wasn’t really planned, but one night after we both had a couple of drinks, we started hooking up in my bedroom, and he whispered in my ear, ‘Should we try it?’ I shook my head yes. We slathered ourselves in lube—I’d always heard that you need to use way more than you think you do—then had him enter very slowly, like, centimeter by centimeter, in the doggy position. Within about five minutes, he was pretty far inside, and it felt like nothing I’d experienced before—a fullness that made me feel like I’d never had sex before.
What made the whole thing that much better was how he kept asking if I was okay and the look of sincere and utter pleasure on his face, as if he was having an otherworldly experience, too. We made a ton of eye contact—I liked turning my head and watching him lose himself to the pleasure—and we kissed a lot as he got close to coming. Despite my nerves, I actually orgasmed, too (I rubbed my clit to put myself more at ease). It was the most intimate night of my life. We did it a handful of times after that on ‘special occasions’ (I have a fear of stretching out, ha), and all were amazing, but none can compare to that first-time feeling.
“It can feel amazing…as long as you use the bathroom first.”
If you’re backed up or on an empty stomach, it sucks. You definitely feel like you’re going to poop, either all over yourself or on his d*ck.
But if you’re not and you do it nice and slowly, it’s euphoric. It’s different from regular sex because it feels like he’s going way deeper. Anal doesn’t help me orgasm more easily, though.
“It’s the perfect balance of dangerous and sexy.”
I used to be obsessed with anal. At one point in high school, I was having more anal than regular sex. When done right—and by right, I mean when the guy doesn’t shove his d*ck into you like a horse in heat—anal can teeter on that dangerous line between pleasure and pain. He feels bigger than ever and completely fills you up. As he’s going in, you have to hold your breath because you feel like your body doesn’t have room for air and his d*ck at the same time, but once he’s in, the pleasure radiates through your whole body.
“I have stronger orgasms during anal.”
For me, being penetrated during anal sex can cause a little soreness during insertion and in the first few minutes. Lots of lube, slow, gentle motions, and patience move it quickly to the next phase, which is an exciting, pleasurable pressure. I find that I can have stronger orgasms while being penetrated anally, but these are clitoral or vaginal orgasms, not anal orgasms—those are quite elusive. For me, it’s probably the added stimulation, the intimacy, and the emotional intensity of anal that make orgasms stronger.
But if the angle is wrong in anal sex, with too much of a sharp upward or downward angle, a stingy and unpleasant pain can be the result. Having the right angle of entry is important for me. Also, pegging someone with a strap-on can be very pleasurable with an insert-able double-ended dildo, or even just the harness or base of the strap-on grinding up against the clitoris.
“It did not feel good.”
I tried it once a long time ago. The guy I was seeing wanted to do it, and I was resistant but eventually gave in. He tried to put it in, but it just hurt too much. I don’t think he used lube, and it’s just really tight. Maybe I’d do it again with the right person if I had a lot of trust in him. Either way, it’s not something at the top of my list.
“The key is to stay relaxed.”
I was always afraid it would hurt, but anal sex actually isn’t so much painful as it is uncomfortable. But! The discomfort is so extreme for some people that they can barely do it — like my best friend, who’s tried a few times with her fiancé and barely gotten it in, no matter how much lube they use. The key, apparently, is to be relaxed, which you really aren’t gonna be — in fact, knowing it’s about to happen will make you tense up more than usual — unless you happen to love it.
I…do not love it, but my boyfriend is super into it, and he’s very respectful and lovely about not pressuring me. We maybe do it once every couple of months. He’s a big advocate of using a butt plug beforehand to ‘loosen everything up.’
“I orgasm more easily through anal.”
Anal sex feels more intense to me and just activates all my pleasure inducing nerve endings. I feel closer to my partner while at the same time, I feel like I’m sucking my partner into me, engulfing them. If I’m having penetrative sex, I orgasm more easily through anal penetration than vaginal penetration, and when I’m receiving anal in a doggie position or standing and bent over with a slight angle, I’m able to receive really orgasmic G-spot stimulation from anal penetration. The taboo nature of anal sex also feels exciting and is this huge turn on. I love opening myself up and exposing myself in this way that feels really good and really empowering. Anal sex feels sexy and slippery (so much lube!) and decadent.
“My first experience was accidental anal.”
I was drunk, and it happened by surprise within a hookup situation because there was not enough communication. Fortunately, I enjoyed myself and had a positive experience overall. I began to realize that I liked the feeling and got pleasure from it. Now in my current long-term relationship, it’s one of the activities in the rotation.
Most important, you need to properly warm up. Just like a vagina, it is easier and more pleasurable when the hole is ready to go. Proper foreplay is essential — bring in lube, fingers, mouth, toys, whatever you prefer. It could take more time than vaginal sex. I think of anal as the second course, because it’s better once you’re already excited and feeling great. My advice is to trust your body, and if you feel up for it, go for it!
We see from the stories that some women tried it and went all the way with stimulating themselves or bringing toys to the bed to make it more fun. Other women won’t try anal sex in a lifetime because it’s not their thing. Both are fine, and you should follow your instincts — they don’t lie.
How to enjoy anal sex
Not everybody is the same, and that’s the beauty of it. Same as we don’t look like each other, we don’t like the same things, especially in sex. This is why anal sex could be an uncomfortable topic or an unpleasant experience. We are here to break it down for you on what you can try to enjoy anal sex even if you think it’s not your cup of tea at first.
Relaxation has to be mentally — it will lead to physical too. Both are important, and if you are not ready, that could lead to unwanted pain.
Try to understand that the more intense you are physically, the more painful it can be. To relax, you need to breathe in and out with concentration. That way, your brain is focused on breathing and makes other muscles in your body relax.
The biggest block that women have in their heads is the shameful part about pooping in front of the partner. But if you prepare yourself well and your partner understands where exactly he is about to penetrate, you have nothing to worry about. Relaxing mentally, try to accept this idea.
If you are considering to try anal sex with your partner for the first time — you have to communicate. Talk through the topic openly and freely, don’t be ashamed. Discuss every little detail that concerns you both and think of the way to enjoy anal sex together. For instance, if you are afraid that the penetration will be painful, ask your partner to play more with your prostate before entering. He can use his mouth, fingers or toys.
Try on your own
One of the other options to ease the possible pain or the feeling of being uncomfortable is to try anal by yourself. You can use your fingers or sex toys. Remember that fingers should be trimmed and clean. If you are using a sex toy, you can try to start with a little anal vibrator or a butt plug.
If you are having anal sex with your partner and everything seems good and not even painful, yet you don’t feel anything special, try to stimulate yourself. Rub your clit or ask your partner to play and interact with your body more. Any stimulation can bring you new exciting feelings — experiment with it.
Try it alone using fingers, relax, communicate with a partner, and don’t be shy to stimulate yourself in the process
Tips for anal sex that you should know
We can’t say that anal sex is some hardcore process, or that you should master it before trying yet there are essential tips that you should know and follow before, during, and after anal sex.
- Don’t forget that cleanliness is important. Don’t start anything if you haven’t douched or your partner is going straight from vaginal sex to anal sex. That doesn’t work that way, and we don’t need any nasty bacteria to spread.
- Do it with a person you know and trust and who also did at least minimum research on the anal sex topic. All that graphic can be in porn but let’s not forget that those are professional movies or clips that are only partly true.
- Train. If you are concerned about the pain, try to build it up. Try fingering or butt plug first. Anal beads will work for that great too.
- Buy that lube! Lubrication is essential in anal sex. Even if you are the most relaxed person in the world, and your partner is the smoothest guy on earth, saliva is never enough in this case. Add lube and add a lot of it.
- Talk to your partner throughout, let him know how you are feeling. If it’s painful — say. If it’s pleasant — say. Don’t forget to tell him once you are ready for more too.
- Get rid of anything dirty. Once you are done, we suggest you hop to the shower immediately, well, you know, just in case. Besides cleaning yourself, get rid of all the condoms you used, and wash towels separately from the others.
Add lube, add a lot of it, and then add some more!
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Myths and facts about anal sex
There is so much different information about anal sex and how to do it right, that things can get confusing and, sometimes, dangerous. We put together myths and facts about anal sex.
Anal sex myths
You don’t have to use a condom because they don’t use it in porn. A thousand times wrong. The porn videos are created by a professional team that doesn’t show you it all. Montage is the key there, so don’t trust everything you see there.
To smoothen things up while douching add milk to the water. No way you should do it ever! Clean it before with warm water only. Don’t put anything else in the water as it could harm your health.
It will be dirty and painful. It won’t be dirty if you do all the procedures that are needed before sex and if you are relaxed enough and your partner prepared foreplay it won’t be painful like most unknown people describe it. It might be a weird feeling at first, but with the right mindset, it can turn out to be the most fascinating experience for both of you.
Your butthole will be too stretched out. The person who created that myth had no idea how the human body works. Receiving anal sex does not equate to developing a penis-sized hole in your backside. Besides, the whole point of anal sex for men is to feel how tighter it is than a vagina.
Anal sex facts
You can cum with anal sex. If it didn’t happen with you after the first try, it doesn’t mean it won’t happen ever. It’s like finding your G-spot. Basically, this why a lot of women say they can cum only with anal sex. Their G-spot is right beneath the surface.
Foreplay is more important than ever. Without proper foreplay, you might not feel that relaxed and in the right mood. Make sure that you are your partner makes it good for each other.
You are in control. Since this is your butt, you are the captain now. You are in charge, and your partner shall always listen to you. You control the depth, the speed of the penetration, and position that you feel good and comfortable with. Also, if something feels too painful or burning, you should stop immediately and see the doctor.
Avoid dangerous food. We mean spicy food, lactose products, and anything that can make your stomach act funny. Meaning, don’t eat if you would need to poop right after it. It is better to take things light a couple of hours before you start.
What the difference between anal sex and prostate stimulation?
Prostate stimulation is more of foreplay that usually described as a delightful feeling. It never leads to an orgasm when, on the other hand, anal sex can. The anus has a lot of nerve endings that will give you that awesome feeling while the penis penetrates you. A lot of people describe it like reverse pooping but let’s face it, it feels great.
Do I need to use lube, or saliva is enough?
You should always use lots of lube to avoid pain. Saliva, in this case, won’t work that well.
Is there any chance I can poop myself?
In theory, there is a chance of that happening. Yet if you are going through all the preparation before anal sex, you are going to be fine. The guy you are doing it with should understand a tiny risk that could happen — we are all humans after all.