TenderMeets Review: a Bit Outdated and a Bit Dull

Members 1,600,000 from the USA
Popularity 260,000 new users per month
Gender proportion 67% male, 33% female
Geography the USA, Spain, France
Account verification email
Mobile app no
Price $0.99 – $45
Free version a minimal set of functions
Fraud risk moderate
Odds of success ★★★☆☆

What is TenderMeets? This time I decided to try this dating platform which promises love to those who join this website. Frankly speaking, it doesn’t look like a place where you can easily find a girl for a fuck tonight, so let’s check if it is possible to find serious relationships here.



Any user over 18 can join the website, but its free functions are limited. If you want to get full access to the site, you have to become a full member. There are four offerings available for those who choose to pay:

Duration Price
1 Day Membership $0.99
1 Week Membership $6.00
1 Month Membership $38.70
3 Months Membership $131.40

Free services

Is TenderMeets free? In fact, they offer you free registration, free search, and 5 free messages a day. For me, it was not enough for a full-fledged conversation. The site actively forces you to buy Premium, and it is very annoying. Three “Buy me” buttons at one screen was too much even for me. I have to admit, though, the moment I bought Premium was when they offered me a 40% discount.

TenderMeets paid membership will give you much more tools to work with

Paid services

The paid services include unlimited chats, big photos, “looking for” info, extended search, premium support, and the ability to share photos and videos in chat. Keep in mind that your paid membership will be automatically renewed until you cancel your subscription. The participants are provided with a “satisfaction guarantee”. If you could not find someone decent to meet up within the first three months at the site, TenderMeets offers you a kind of compensation. You’ll have a free 3-day trial to use with any dating site of Porticato Media LTD network. It includes such dating sites as FlirtMoms, Flirtdose, Flirtyspace, Localsdates, Momsmeetups, Randezona, Beflirty, UpToFlirt.

40% discount if you buy longer TenderMeets membership

Audience quality


The majority of participants seem to be in search of long-term relationships, love, and even life partner. If you are looking only for free local sex, you may feel uncomfortable on this platform. Men dominate here, as 67% of members are male, and the most active participants are from the USA, Spain, France, and… Taiwan. 260,000 new members join the platform each month.

By the way, it is possible to find a same-sex match here. Don’t feel embarrassed if you are not straight, your sexual orientation is not an obstacle anymore. But if you are a transgender person, you’d hardly find a partner here; try using special trans dating apps.

Age distribution

The average age is 25–40. Users under 18 are not welcome. As for me, I was chatting mostly with women from 25 to 28. Younger and older women were not so active.

You must be 18 to use dating and sexting apps

Fakes and scammers

Email confirmation cuts the probability of fakes and scammers. Photos and profile details undergo moderation, and it is an advantage from my point of view. But it looks like TenderMeets fakes up the users by itself. This is a well-known method of dating sites to send bogus messages to newcomers with free membership. It is supposed to encourage their interest and stimulate to buy paid services as it is impossible to answer without a full account.

I received 7 messages from beautiful girls within 5 minutes after I signed up! I had no photo in my profile yet, not much info either, but they wanted to talk so much. How is that possible? It’s all a trick to make you buy a full membership. When you try to answer, you are redirected to the payment page. It looks as if these profiles are TenderMeets scams, aren’t they?

TenderMeets allows you to answer messages with paid membership

And in the Terms of Use, it is directly explained that they provide their users with a “Promote My Account” function which means that they send automatically generated alerts that require an upgraded membership.



The interface can be described with two words: classic and dull. White is the main color, pink and blue are also standard, two hearts at the logo are nice but trivial.

The main disadvantage is that Terms of Use are hidden at the bottom and it is impossible to understand the rules without reading them. People, you need a sound FAQ for users to help them understand why they cannot answer some girls or why they receive strange messages.

Signing up

The signing up process is simple and not so long. The registration takes about 10 minutes. It includes four steps:

  • Select your gender and the gender of your intended partner.
  • Specify your age.
  • Enter a valid email.
  • Fill in the password.
Fill in the fields and wait for the email

Your location will be identified automatically according to your IP address.

To complete the registration, it is necessary to verify your email. It’s just one click, and now you have access to other users’ profiles.

And I must mention the singing in process. I don’t know why, but I failed to sign in several times. This is nothing similar to Pure, where the login is fast, it requires only your email. And then, the sign-in never fails, so you’re just one tap away from finding your match. Keep in mind that all Pure users know what they want, so you won’t spend time in meaningless small talks if you are ready to cut it to the chase.


Profile information is typical for such kind of sites: name, age, gender, orientation, photos, videos, a shortlist of additional info. An interesting feature: your hair color, ethnic origin, and body type will be defined automatically after you have downloaded your photo.

In your profile, you can also see the girls you have already visited and the list of your favorites.

The girls at TenderMeets are beautiful


Search is based on gender, age, and location similar to other sites of this kind. You can use a search bar at the top of the homepage, or you can browse through profiles on the page. You can see people who are online and newcomers.

Sending Flirtcast is another option to help you in search, but it is available only if you have a photo in your profile.

Like Gallery is designed to attract more attention to users’ photos. They are shown one-by-one, and you may heart them if you see someone you like. You can also see those who liked you.

TenderMeets Like Gallery


The chat is not something extraordinary. You can send 5 text messages to new contacts and continue to communicate with paid members for free, but photos and videos can be sent only by paid members. Sometimes chats pop up when you receive a message from another member, and it is a bit irritating.

Mobile app

It sounds impossible in the 21st century, but the mobile TenderMeets app doesn’t exist at all. But do not get discouraged as things are not so bad. There is something that will help the users so much: m.tendermeets. This means the mobile version of the site which has the same features as the TenderMeets desktop site. Better than nothing, huh.

Mobile adaptive website of TenderMeets

Security and privacy


The email confirmation and profile moderation give credibility to the website. Also according to the Terms of Use, any participant can become a Verified Member if he or she validates a phone number, though I failed to find this option in my profile. But when I was about to give up hope, an offer to verify my account appeared magically, so I did it.

Verification at TenderMeets

Another interesting security feature is Safe Mode. It is designed to provide a safer user experience and you can choose from three options:

  • Off: any member can write to you.
  • Basic: you cannot contact the members marked as suspicious.
  • Full: only Verified Members can text you.

The most unpleasant thing about TenderMeets is that those unverified members who are suspected of the scam are marked but not deleted. If they are not scammers, it is humiliating for them, and if they are real offenders, what do they still do on the platform? Yet the feature I really liked is the option to block some contacts. To do so, go to their profile, find three vertical dots, click on them and select Block.

An unverified and suspicious user at Tendermeets

Odds of success


I think the chance of success is rather high if you meet two requirements: first, you are ready for a meaningful relationship, and second, you are ready to pay. In general, girls look real on this platform, and website administration tries to fight with fakes and scammers. I got acquainted with three girls, but our conversation reached a deadlock. They were nice, pretty clever, but… probably too good. It is not so bad if you are looking for something serious, but it was not my situation.

In any case, if you start to feel bored with it, you can always try any hookup app

Matching algorithm

The approach to matching is traditional. It is based on gender, age, location, and some features of appearance. Unfortunately, interests are not involved.

Users’ experience

Users have left not so many comments on TenderMeets. But TenderMeets reviews available online demonstrate that the main users’ dissatisfaction is TenderMeets’ fake. They feel cheated by bogus emails and automatically paid account renewal, and leave comments like that:

He also believes this site is bogus
He does not believe that likes and messages are real

At the same time some users express their gratitude to the support:

He likes this site


As I have already mentioned, I felt just bored. TenderMeets website is so ordinary, that I’d like to change it for something much hotter. Check this list, you may find a proper dating site here:



Pure is the best alternative to other dating platforms. The audience is extremely active about meeting up, so you never feel bored. After posting your ad, you’ll see ads of people around you, and if you both like each other, you will be able to talk, exchange pictures and voice messages in a self-destructing chat for 24 hours. That is why everyone has a strong interest in spending this time in the most productive way. The feature I really enjoy is the anonymity of conversation and an easy sign-up: no social media links or phone numbers required.



Instabang is a platform for those who are in search of quick hookups, individual, and group sex dates. Instabang has the same membership base with Uberhorny, its sister site, and there are 2 million members there.



A popular service designed for those looking for a one-night-stand. Profiles on this site don’t look like fakes as administration checks and deletes suspicious accounts.


Is TenderMeets real?

Yes, you have a chance to find a real match. But be ready to pay, otherwise, the probability to find someone is extremely small.

How can I sign in?

Your email will be your TenderMeets login, use it to sign in. Use your email and create a password to sign up, and you are ready to meet interesting (and not so interesting) girls.

Is TenderMeets legit?

Yes, it seems legit. There are lots of real people from different places who look for a match here.

How to block undesirable users?

Enter this user’s profile, find three vertical dots, click on them, and select Block option. If you want to unblock the contact, go to My Settings, find BLOCKED AND REPORTED MEMBERS button at the foot of the page, click it and you’ll see the list of the blocked users. Click the UNBLOCK button under the photo of the selected user.

How to delete the TenderMeets account?

Enter My Settings, click the Remove Account button. Then you are to take 5 steps:

  • Enter your password.
  • Choose “Remove my profile, contacts, and personal information completely” option.
  • Explain why you want to remove your profile (this is obligatory).
  • Confirm you are still sure you want to leave.
  • Click Continue to receive a confirmation email.

It can take up to 1 hour for the email with the cancellation code to arrive. Enter the code, click the “Continue” button, and your account will be deleted. This is a brief instruction on how to delete TenderMeets.

James Miller
Born in Los Angeles, graduated from a college as a journalist, and spent several years as a freelancer writing about cultural events. From 2017, James writes about love and relationships and explores dating services.

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