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Guide to the best dating sites for older men to find younger women and vice-versa

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In 2014, the age gap in heterosexual couples was usually less than 2.3 years. But young woman dating older men is not rare anymore. A few years went by and according to research conducted by an online dating app, the likelihood of users considering potential date ten or more years older grew by a whopping 9%. Relationships with big age gaps are gaining popularity.

What’s more, couples, where a girl is older than a guy, are slowly but surely becoming more popular. Demi Moore is married to Ashton Kutcher. Madonna, Mariah Carey, and Sandra Bullock are dating younger guys. More and more women discover the benefits of being in a relationship with a young man.

Keeping this in mind, we decided to create the ultimate list of dating websites that you can use to find an older or a younger person to date. The list contains free adult dating sites for those seeking a serious relationship as well as for those looking for a quick affair with no strings attached.

Match

Match is one of the first dating services ever created — it was launched back in 1995. The service has gained wild popularity; every month, 30 million people use it. However, despite being an old platform, unlike many competing services, the developers kept improving the Match and keeping it updated with exciting new features like modern design, complex matching algorithms, and a cool app.

Affordability

★★★☆☆

Match offers a free membership that allows accessing the platform and browsing matches. However, users have to purchase a membership to contact a person. Match sells subscriptions and gives users the choice of three rates depending on the option.

  • $20.99 if you join for 12 months.
  • $23.99 if you join for 6 months.
  • 27.99% if you join for 3 months.

Audience quality

★★★★★

Match has an enormous user base and with people from 28 countries. What’s more, there is about the same number of men registered as there are women. And because of how many people there are, all users are almost guaranteed to find a matching younger or older date.

Membership in the service is costly, but this is also one of the platform advantages as it allows the team to maintain high standards when it comes to eliminating fake profiles. Most users that are ready to purchase a membership are serious about their goals. This ensures an exceptionally high quality of the user base.

Interface

★★★★★

We found the interface to be modern and well thought out. The navigation is clear and intuitive while the design is sleek and minimalistic. Upon registration, we were able to set a lot of preferences and inform the system that we were looking for a date. Then we participated in a questionnaire that took almost 30 minutes which ensured that the matching algorithm had something to go off.

Security and privacy

★★★★☆

Match staff manually confirms every profile, though they don’t require users to connect social networks to register. Match claims that they employ unique protection methods, but it is not certain what those are.

During our use, we didn’t encounter fakes or bots, but we have to lower the security and privacy score due to the lack of mandatory safety procedures.

Odds of success

★★★★☆

Match has a lot going for it — great design, millions of users and a complex matching algorithm that helps you find the person you were looking for. While searching for a younger partner, we were able to set our preferences, and we soon got matched with several potential dates.

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Pure

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Pure

While the last platform we reviewed caters more to those seeking serious relationships, Pure is a powerhouse of a dating app targeted specifically at casual encounters. The goal of this app is straightforward — find as many matches as possible in a short time.

The app gives you one hour to find your date. During this time, the application uses the data you provided and looks for matches near you, connecting you with people seeking casual sex in your area. After the hour passes, your profile automatically deletes, protecting your privacy. If you want to use the app again, create a new public profile.

I am:

Looking for:

My email:

Affordability

★★★★★

The app provides a 7-day free trial, and it is always free for women. For men, there are five payment options.

  • $14.99 access for one week.
  • $29.99 a month.
  • $19.66 a month, 6 months subscription.
  • $6.30 a month, 12 months subscription.

Thus, the app provides excellent rates for those wishing to purchase an extended subscription while still being affordable to try.

Audience quality

★★★★★

Due to paywall access and multiple security measures taken by the developers, we were pleased to find that the app is popular and features a real user base. This is not the place for bots and fake profiles.

During our use of the app, we managed to find three potential matches in our area and started a chat with 2, finally securing a date.

Interface

★★★★☆

Pure has a minimalistic design concept and only necessary features — a choice that was made by creators deliberately to deliver a unique user experience. Profiles contain a name and a selfie — just enough information to find a partner.

While this concept is interesting and fresh, it made looking specifically for somebody younger or older a bit more complicated than we had wished.

Security and privacy

★★★★★

The app requires users to have a valid email address. Alternatively, users confirm their phone numbers, which makes an application a secure option for looking for a casual date.

The real gem of this app is the privacy — minimal information in profiles and their automatic deletion ensure that your private business will stay exactly that — private.

Hookup chance

★★★★★

Since its introduction in 2014 Pure made a big splash in the world of online dating. Thanks to how popular the new dating concept developed by this app is, we found that it provides a real chance to hookup, even despite the seemingly narrow 1-hour timeframe.

OurTime.com

Our time is a classic dating site for seniors looking for a date or a serious relationship. The audiences are single men and women over 50 years of age, which makes this an excellent choice for finding an older date. We should also note that there are almost as many women browsing this site as there are men.

Thanks to the lack of enforced age restriction, this is also a great place for young women to meet an older man.

Affordability

★★★★☆

Ourtime provides multiple pricing options for monthly memberships:

  • $11.99/ a month for 6 months.
  • $17.99 month for 3 months.
  • $23.9 a month for 1 month.

Audience quality

★★★★☆

This dating website is visited by over 8 million people every day. This ensures that users can always find somebody to talk to. Thanks to the emphasis on serious dating and older users, there is not a lot of immature behavior on the website.

We also find that a website provides an ideal platform if you are looking for a partner specifically much older than you. Despite its emphasis on helping those over 50 meet, anybody can register a free profile regardless of their age.

Interface

★★★★☆

During the registration, the website explains the necessary steps to the user and makes the experience comfortable. From there, the matching algorithm helps to find potential dates. However, the design is a little bit outdated. Perhaps it was made to cater to the older audience.

Security and privacy

★★★★☆

Paid membership and standard security measures like the mandatory email confirmation make this website sufficiently secure, while the ability to make your profile invisible protects privacy.

Odds of success

★★★★☆

If you are looking for an older partner, the popularity of OurTime along with the age restriction and a high number of real profiles, make it an excellent option to find a serious relationship.

SilverSingles

Like our previous entry, this is another dating site with an emphasis on long relationships with an age restriction of 50 years and older. It provides a safe platform with a variety of search options.

However, unlike OurTime, there is an age restriction, and if you are younger than 50, you would have to lie about your age to use this platform which reduces the odds of success.

Affordability

★★☆☆☆

To gain access to the full feature set, you have to purchase a paid membership.

  • $31.95 a month for 12 months.
  • $44.95 a month for 6 months.
  • $57.95 a month for 1 month.

Being a less popular platform than the similar OurTime.com, these prices look a little steep.

Audience quality

★★★★☆

Thanks to 800,000 a month, we found that this website has many people online at any given moment, which makes for great user experience. High financial entry threshold ensures that there aren’t many fake profiles, and the overall audience quality is pretty high. Most users are singles looking for a partner, and the website has a 50+ age restriction.

Interface

★★★★★

From the beginning the website helped us figure out the interface and walked us through a carefully designed profile set-up process, where we imputed our details and partner preferences for the matching algorithm, which instantly started giving us potential matches. There is also easy to use the advanced search feature.

Security and privacy

★★★☆☆

Thanks to the mandatory email confirmation and paid access to some of the features, the website is sufficiently secured. There is also an option to hide the profile for additional privacy.

Odds of success

★★★☆☆

Because of the mandatory 50+ age restriction, the odds of success are not particularly high. Most of the readers would have to lie about the age which complicates the search and increases the chance of being banned.

BeNaughty

BeNaughty is a dating site for casual relationships and kinky online chatting. Those not looking for anything serious will be in the right place on this platform. BeNaughty provides a series of ways to contact other members and express your attraction to somebody, which creates interesting scenarios and fun user experience.

Affordability

★★★★☆

Users join for free; however, to receive full access to features, you have to purchase a monthly membership.

  • $11.99 a month if you join for 6 months.
  • $16.99 a month if you join for 3 months.
  • $24.99 a month if you join for one month.

Audience quality

★★★★☆

The audience of BeNaughty is mainly singles looking for a casual and kinky relationship. There are more women than man registered on the platform. The platform has implemented an anti-fraud system that we found worked well and managed to keep the site almost free of scammers and fake profiles.

Interface

★★★☆☆

The interface is minimalistic and makes the job done. It is not the prettiest of designs, but there is not much bad we can say about it either. It’s just there, and it works.

Security and privacy

★★★★☆

Developers of BeNaughty understand that for a platform visited by users looking for a very casual encounter, privacy is a top concern. However, website creators also view this as a way to make more money. Thus, we were offered to purchase additional packages with different security levels upon registration. We wished those features were available by default, but it is what it is.

To protect privacy further, profiles contain a little information about users, most of which is related to appearance or sexual preferences.

Hookup chance

★★★★☆

BeNaughty features a fraud-free experience, a diverse user base of like-minded people from all over the world, and localization in 27 languages. Thanks to its emphasis on casual encounters and even fetishes, we didn’t find any problem looking for a younger partner to hook up with.

AFF

AFF is a dating site for quick hookups. It gives users the chance to leave behind their modesty and engage in a series of spicy chats and online encounters that hopefully will lead to a real-world date.

Affordability

★★★☆☆

Users register, browse the site and like profiles for free, but you must purchase a membership to message others.

  • $39.95 a month for 12 months.
  • $26.95 a month for 6 months.
  • $39.95 a month for one month.

The prices are steep, but that is the cost developers placed on finding a quick affair.

Audience quality

★★★☆☆

The website is home to 80 million users who are open to quick affairs. If you are interested in skipping the dating phase and going straight for it, AFF is the right place. The user base is diverse with people registering from all over the world; however the majority of the population are men.

Still, the numbers allowed us to explore the site as an older men looking to meet younger women, and it didn’t take long before we found our match.

Interface

★★★☆☆

The interface is easy to use and clear. Profiles contain limited information, and a lot of emphases is placed on visual content which is usually sexual.

Security and privacy

★★☆☆☆

Anybody can set up an account in five minutes and start browsing through profiles. The only security measure is an email confirmation. At least, users are not able to message others without a subscription which reduced the amount of spam and fakes.

The website only requires basic information which is good for those concerned with their privacy.

Hookup chance

★★★★☆

Diverse, active audience and popularity of the platform make hooking up an enjoyable and realistic feat. Though the lack of security options somewhat hinders the website.

FriendFinder X

FriendFinder X, just like our previous entry, is a website where users find quick affairs and one night stands. This is not the one for you if you are interested in finding a serious relationship.

FriendFinder X has been around since 1996, which makes it one of the oldest platforms on our list. Though not a specialized platform, the popularity it gained over time and the sheer number of users make it a suitable option for older readers looking for a younger partner.

Affordability

★★☆☆☆

Users register for free, but to contact members, you will have to purchase a membership. The prices start from $40 a month for a premium membership with a $12 a month addon which allows receiving messages from users registered for free.

Audience quality

★★★★☆

According to FriendFinder X, 25,000 new users join the platform every day, and the global user base consists of 90 million people, most of whom are males from the US.

While browsing the website, we found that the number of fake profiles and scammers is low, and the experience was mostly positive.

Interface

★★★☆☆

During our use, we didn’t have any problems with FriendFinder X interface. The design is user-friendly, and navigational elements are nicely grouped. Visually the website is not going to get any awards, but that’s not necessary.

Profiles are informative, and detailed search can help you find exactly the type of affair you are looking for.

Security and privacy

★★★☆☆

Security of the website is sufficient, though we couldn’t help but feel that we wished for a more elaborate approach to privacy and security. At least users have to confirm their emails when registering.

Hookup chance

★★★☆☆

With over 90 million users from all over the world, hookup chance on the website is high. However, the membership is costly, and most users are males from the US, which ultimately hinders our final score.

Services worth mentioning

We’ve picked up seven more services to try if the others did not work for you. We think the chances of success are lower here, but you may be lucky.

SeekingArrangement

SeekingArrangement is a website with a unique concept — it provides a platform for beautiful and successful people from over 130 countries to meet and facilitates long term relationships rather than quick affairs. The platform features a base of young and beautiful women looking for dates with older men. Registration is free for women; however, men will have to purchase the membership to gain access to the platform.

WhatsYourPrice

Men looking for a date on this website have to place bids on profiles of women that they find attractive to get a chance to meet this person. This approach ensures that no time is being spent on pointless online chatting and odds of success are higher than ever. That said, participation is costly, with some bids reaching 400 dollars and even more.

Despite that, the website features an audience of 2 million actively looking users from multiple countries.

SugarDaddy

This website was created specifically to facilitate the needs of older men looking for a younger girl and the other way around. During the registration process, users get to specify their preferences for the websites matching algorithm to find perfect partners. There is also an advanced search that helps users to take matters into their own hands. During the testing, we noted that the website is mobile-friendly which was great for browsing on the go.

RichMeetBeautiful

The website was created for sophisticated dating experience. A matching algorithm connects wealthy men with beautiful women and vice versa. Though relationships with big age gaps are possible here, the landing page states that younger users looking to receive financial aid from somebody older are not allowed on the platform.

RichMeetBeautiful is free to try out for a limited time before users are required to purchase a membership.

SugarDaddyMeet

SugarDaddyMeet is created to connect successful older people with younger dates. It is available in the top 20 richest countries and has over 2 million active members with thousands joining every day. The website features advanced search, verified profiles for high audience quality, and a useful app.

A specialized platform simplifies the goal of looking for somebody older or younger than the seeker, but we have to wonder if one has more chance finding a more honest and genuine relationship on a more general platform.

SugarDaddyCatch

SugarDaddyCatch markets itself as the number one website that facilitates older-younger dating needs. It looks like a platform for more casual relationships than our previous entries. However, despite bold claims, SugarDaddyCatch is less popular than other best apps for hooking up we reviewed in this article, with only 750,000 members.

The website promises that SugarDaddyCatch is a place for successful people to find mutually beneficial arrangements and that a lot of emphases is placed on the security and privacy of user profiles.

SugarDaddie

SugarDaddie is presented as a premium dating site for connecting wealthy man and beautiful young women seeking patronage. The site offers to deliver a personalized experience with top-quality profiles and even live customer service and promises that hundreds of users join the platform every day.

Quick affairs and one night stands are not facilitated on this platform with the focus on singles looking to find a serious, long-term relationship.

Advice for older man dating younger women and older women dating a younger man

When talking about dating somebody with a big age difference, it is safe to assume that the younger person in a relationship is more mature than most of their peers.

A person interested in meeting somebody much older than them probably recognizes that they can receive more from such a relationship, than what other 20-year olds can give. We are not talking about money here. Think Scarlet and Rhett relationship from Gone with the Wind.

Don’t try to imitate their behaviour to blend in and don’t be ashamed of your age. Your maturity is what drew them to you, and the more you can express it, the higher the odds of success.

If you have read a book or two and can tell Van Gogh from your Gauguin, it doesn’t mean that your younger date will be bored with you — on the contrary, use your mind, maturity and knowledge to fascinate them.

Advice for younger women dating older men and younger man dating older women

If you are a younger person interested in meeting somebody older than you, the concept remains the same — don’t try to be somebody you are not. Keep in mind that an older person who is willing to spend their time with you will demand something more than just good looks.

An older person will be looking for somebody mature enough to recognize that the leading role in the relationship belongs to the more mature partner. They have reached that stage in life when they are ready to live for somebody else. Your job is to accept and appreciate. As a younger person, you can bring energy, fun spontaneity, and an open mind to the relationship — those are your strengths that you should stick to.

Statistics about older dating younger relationships

Though couples with big age gaps are not yet mainstream, they are gaining popularity in the modern era. If we consider the US marriage statistics, while 33% of all marriages have an age gap of just one year, 11% have an age gap of up to 9 years. The numbers quickly decrease from here, with only 4.5% of all marriages featuring an age gap of more than ten years, but these numbers are slowly changing.

Information collected in the UK and Australia revealed nearly identical patterns. Most commonly in relationships with age disparity older men are dating or marrying younger women, as most men are attracted to women in their 20s. However, this trend is being turned around. In some examples, even by celebrities.

Robin Wright, who is 47, is married to Ben Foster, who is 33 years old. Shakira’s date is a man 10 years younger. Hugh Jackman has been married to Deborra-Lee Furness who is 13 years older.

What is the best dating site for 2019

In our modern age, dating a younger or older person is slowly becoming a norm. Thankfully, it is also becoming easier than ever, as users have never had access to such a wide variety of top free dating sites and apps.

However, which dating site is ultimately the best? After thoroughly reviewing our options, we peaked our two definite winners in 2 categories.

Quick hookups

Having used all websites presented on this list and more, we must say that not a single one of them makes hooking up as effortless and fun as Pure.

The app is simply in a league of its own — focus on privacy, and the refreshing concept of finding a date within the given 1-hour timeframe make the experience super fun. Smart algorithms that narrow the search down to your immediate are almost guarantee that you will meet somebody every time.

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Serious relationships

If you are looking for a long-term relationship, we would advise looking no further than Match. Though, not nearly as exciting and fresh like Pure, this more standard platform has a big user base and great, modern design with a low number of fake profiles or bots.

If you are looking for a quick affair or a partner to live your life with, dating websites in this list are guaranteed to help you fulfil your goal. Don’t give up and keep looking!

James Miller
Born in Los Angeles, graduated from a college as a journalist, and spent several years as a freelancer writing about cultural events. From 2017, James writes about love and relationships and explores dating services.

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