I got a chance to learn what Discord is, maybe a few months ago. That time I had to install it on my laptop for completely different reasons, and I thought that it is just like any other messenger app to connect people and blah, blah, blah. Apparently, my life is revolving more around vaginas and penises, and not the gaming community, because I had no idea that Discord has a dating section. After my deep research, I’ve learned that the platform is one of the easiest ways for Internet users to communicate over voice, video, or text. Especially for gamers. 250 million people use Discord and it has game groups, international communities of creative people, or just friends keeping in touch. Discord is available for free for Windows, iOS, Android, and Linux.
Discord dating is just one niche on the platform:
How to Get Started With Discord
First things first, you need to get to the website and choose the preferred way to use it. You can either stay on the platforms but I find it better with the app, that you can download either to the computer or to your mobile device. You can find and join servers related to dating here, in case you already know which one to use, But I also got a list of the most popular ones, so I suggest you stick with me.
Registration would take a few minutes. Also, Discord allows you to join servers and create your own ones:
Each of the servers most likely would have a so-called verification. It is usually nothing extreme and you can complete it within the platform, but it is necessary to confirm that you are already 18. You see, most dating servers in Discord are for big boys and girls and shared materials is something that the juvenile better not see. At least for now.
What perks are behind the verification? Well, the list of functions that you can implement on the server after verification will expand in most cases. In particular, you will get the ability to attend various voice and text chats on topics that suit you. I’ll talk more on each server that I have and will specify what they have and what is missing. Verification usually does not take much time on all servers that are mentioned in this article as moderators respond almost immediately.
In addition, if you have questions regarding the server or something like “how the hell I should use it”, just like I had on my mind, you can always contact a moderator and get an answer. After these few steps, you can enjoy the platform.
The Most Popular Dating Servers in Discord for Today
Before you blame me for giving you the links that are not working, keep in mind that each Discord dating server is quite unstable. In the sense that they may cease to exist at all. However, the giant dating servers from Discord tend to play it safe and strong. All the platforms below require you to be 18+ to get access to the adult content.
Another fact that annoyed me is that somehow, my website version didn’t see any of my servers that I have on my phone. So yeah, you should stick to one platform before entering all the servers.
|Discord Dating Servers||Odds of success|
|[NSFW] Midnight Lounge||★★☆☆☆|
The largest and most developed dating channel in Discord with more than 71,000 users. The playroom is not playing around, if you have never used Discord before and installed it yesterday, you will have to wait seven days before you are approved. After these long 7 days, you may enter the most privileged server. But is it all that awesome? I mean, 70+ thousand people should be in there for some reason, right?
Playroom seems to be the most popular within all suggested:
- Verification for each participant is required to ensure safety;
- There are always a lot of people in voice chat rooms with whom you can have an easy contact;
- The chance to find someone within 70k users is much higher.
- After you get in, it is not that exciting as it seems. In two words — nothing special.
An NSFW channel with more than 10 thousand users, suitable for everyone who is looking for some erotic fun. After verification, you can get to any channel you got your eye on and migrate between each of them. I liked the variety of rooms to enter. However, I spent nearly an hour hanging at DMS-flirt-hookups and was disappointed. A few weirdos tried to make their move but that’s about it. And the room had nearly 1,500 users at the moment. Meh.
Nothing much happened at Divine:
- You can share all the naughty materials you have;
- People seem to be interested in participation with others;
- Spam in chats of the server is well controlled by moderators.
- All the users do is talk. I didn’t get any real action after spending time on the server.
Game Sluts has over 8,000 users and a lot! of different rooms. Yet none of those hit me with excitement. Don’t hate me, I’m just being honest. But I bet a lot of people start talking there and then move to DMS or just chat about anything that’s happening in their lives at the moment. Kinda like Snapchat sexting. Also, a little bird whispered that they are asking to show photos of documents for verification, but that’s total lies.
The most interesting room is DMS:
- Almost no catfishing thanks to obligatory verification;
- Moderators take an active part in the life of each room and server in general.
- Users are not really active.
Okay you guys, now we are talking. This server actually got me excited because they had a lot of rooms for selfies and porn. That’s why I’m doing this review, right?
I want to see users who are engaged in in-room conversations as if they are webcam models. I don’t care about you talking all about your life troubles in a room that is supposed to be all naughty 18+. You get the point:
Despite the fact that the group has way fewer users than other popular services, users here are extra active and I love it! They also have a meetup room which looks very close to ads like we had with Craigslist Personals back in the day or what Pure has to offer nowadays.
- Easy verification to get inside;
- An enormous variety of room 18+ with active participants inside;
- Meetup section that is popular a lot.
- Not that many users, if you care about that.
At first, I honestly have no idea why Discord gave me Forest Folk in the top in my search, but the only naughty words that I detected there were porn in food-porn and role as in who you can become for this platform.
The platform has a few users but those are very active and straightforward:
Okay, not all is so bad, they have NSFW (Not Safe For Work) rooms, and those indeed are naughty. And there are a few different dating rooms where you can place information about yourself and who you are looking for. NSFW, on the other hand, has 4 rooms.
NSFW chat? is nothing special. I scrolled far for the previous messages and still didn’t find anything worth calling juicy conversation. NSFW? has the most interesting chats for me personally. Hentai? is anime only, soft_core seems simply dull.
- 18+ strictly, that is why verification is required;
- A lot of sections with different topics inside the server;
- Totally LGBT friendly that I adore.
- Not that many users but all of them are active.
- Not really focused on actual hookups and meetups;
- Other rooms have nothing interesting to gain.
I liked Tease 18+ right away. It is simple and straightforward. I didn’t have trouble navigating rooms. Inside, the rooms are semi-active but porn bots keep each room entertained.
I didn’t like that bots take way more space in chats than actual users:
- Has a lot of different theme rooms to join. Porn and other categories;
- Special topic BDSM is included.
- Not many participants and seems like automatic bots are running the party.
Okay, 3X is a full and proper adult 18+ porn group. It is dedicated just to it, no wonder there are more than 20,000 users. I found a few interesting groups, one was even created the same day I checked the service out and I would definitely stick to that one.
I mean I would love to read those confessions:
Besides porn and rooms divided by interests, there are also a few market spots where you can buy naughty content. Those divided into female, male, couples, and transgender. The last two usually have a lot of the same offers as the female group.
I found a lot of females selling their nudes, videos, etc.:
Dudes didn’t try to sell anything. More of a bragging, well, mostly bragging:
- Easy verification and simple navigation between the rooms;
- Definitely focused on the topic of sexting and hookup;
- Lots of different rooms to check out.
- Those who try to sell nudes always can turn out to be scammers.
Claims to be a dating server for such who are over 18, and it has nearly 24,000 members that seem perfect. However, the service has only one main chat and that’s it. My friend who recommended the server to me said that sometimes there are sexting orgies. I didn’t find any. But guess I’ll stick to the group, you know, just in case.
Doesn’t seem like a potential virtual orgy to me:
- Has a lot of users;
- The server is really about hangout and flirting;
- Moderators are taking good care of the server.
- Has only one room for all users.
I didn’t see anything related to NSFW but still, it is one of the top dating slash adult servers at Discord, despite the fact that it doesn’t have that many users. The service even has a little “profile” fill-in to go through. Nothing serious, you need to specify a few details about yourself. like where you are from, your gender, and what you are looking for. After that and ten minutes of waiting, you will get access to all the rooms and can message there.
A few simple verification steps and you will get access to all the rooms:
- There is the verification that will make you fill in simple details about you. Something similar to a user profile;
- Many diverse sections inside the server.
- It is for adults but I found it very dull and there was very little communication between users.
The Bottom Line
You might get even more interesting groups for yourself if you search for a specific one:
So at the end of this review on servers for dating in Discord, I can say that there is something unusual and non-standard to use it as a platform to find a hookup. And I didn’t like the user experience at all. I mean, I have all the links and stuff, but trust me, that was a hell of research to get those. In my opinion, it is a cool place to entertain yourself. It rewinds my mind back to the ICQ that we had a very long time ago. But it is differently the worst place to look for actual hookups or ever solid sexting. It’s not like Discord is a free dating site with no sign up.
For obvious reasons Discord servers 18+ are still not able to give you complete confidence that any user who is looking for something more than just chatting, and users are not engaged in more real communications or whatsoever. Dating channels have a lack of security measures, that’s just one main issue. I’m sure you’ve figured out the rest.
So the real question at the end of the day. If Discord is not good for hookups or sexting, what is good? You know I got your back as it happens that I know the app called Pure.
Pure is among the best apps to have sexting or hookup:
|Popularity||150,000 active users daily|
|Gender proportion||55% males, 45% females|
|Geography||USA, Europe, International|
|Mobile app||iOS, Android|
|Free version||For females|
Pure has it all. Easy two-minute registration that requires only an email or Google / Apple ID. Personal ads instead of boring profiles, and a 1000 km radius for you to explore. It is noteworthy that Pure does not allow taking screenshots of photos in a chat and automatically deletes the chat after 24 hours unless both of the participants decide to extend it (to do so, just tap the collar icon). Here you can rediscover yourself and your inner desires, be open and straightforward from the very beginning.
At Pure everyone is equal and is equally free. It gives you the opportunity to go beyond the usual patterns of behavior. People come here to get new emotions, to sext, and to find someone for fun that might end however you both decide. As a female, you can use the app free of charge. If you are a man, you have to buy a subscription, anything from one week to one year. If you are thinking about whether to try Discord or go straight with Pure, the last one would be a much better decision.
What is Discord?
Discord is a platform that gathers people with different interests together. That could be gamers, friends, colleagues, or anything else.
Is Discord a dating app?
No, it is not a traditional dating app, but it does have a lot of servers that you can join to try to find new people worldwide and have some fun.
How can I register at Discord?
To register at Discord, you need to create a username, add an email, and password. After verifying your email, you can use Discord.
How can I join the server at Discord?
To join a server you can either have an invitation link that someone has sent you, you might find those through the main search at Discord website directly, or you can use links from this article. Note that some servers are very unstable and if a link is unavailable, then the server most likely doesn’t exist anymore.
Can I create my own server at Discord?
After registration, you will get a customized link to your server. You can easily access it anytime by going to your personal profile.